Explaining parenting in one post is quite a feat. Here's what I know: parenting is as much for the parents as it is the children. Parenting allows the parents to grow in ways they never could. It requires sacrifice and selflessness. Children fulfill a parents need of being needed. Children also have needs. Popkin came up with a method of parenting that is focused on the children's needs. I think it's great.
Here are a few of children's needs according to Popkin:
contact/belonging
cherished
trust
power
Looking over these things I don't think we ever grow out of these needs. A parent's job is to not only meet these needs but also to teach constructive ways for them to get it themselves.
A child uses a lot of attention seeking techniques when they don't feel their need of contact of belonging being met. Annoying others and getting into trouble are a few of the mistaken tactics that they use. According to Popkin if you meet their needs by hugging, smiling, creating opportunities for a child to contribute in the household and the community the child won't feel the need to act out.
Quote of week:
You can never get enough of what you don't need because what you don't need can never satisfy you.
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