Love?

What do you think when you hear the word: LOVE? Chick flick fantasies? I have to admit that at one point that is what I thought of and imagined as reality for a long time. That's not real. It's actually not a great idea to fall in love and decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone within a few weeks of knowing them. There are a lot of hormones that confuse reality at that time. The best way to make sure that your mind is clear and able to make rational decisions is to follow the Relationship Attachment model (RAM).

The basic idea is to know more than you trust, trust more than you rely, rely more than you commit, and commit more than you touch. A common mistake is to jump into the touch category too quickly. It’s a bad idea to even hold hands before you are exclusively dating. Once touching enters the equation it confuses the rest and you feel like you know the person and can trust them more than you actually do and can. 

Gender Roles

There are some people in this world that believe that we should raise our boys more like our girls and vice-versa. I don't think this is a good idea. The truth of the matter is that boys and girls are different. There are physiological differences in our brains. Boys and girls see the world differently. To treat them the same wouldn't make sense. Obviously I believe that we should treat them with the same respect and love but maybe go about raising them a little bit differently.

Some Differences Between the Sexes: 

Male
rougher/ tougher
competitive
carreer and leadership oriented
protective
aggressive
less verbal
more talk oriented

Female:
detail oriented
more relationship oriented
object oriented for directions
more verbal

Equality?

America is known for it's freedom, right? Equality for all? Sound familiar? Ha! that's funny. We all know that equality is much more complicated than that.

The truth is that America operates on a social class system probably as much as other countries. We've all heard the terms "upper class" and "lower class." What does that mean? Are there some people that are better than others? What is "upper class" and how does one obtain it? Is it, necessarily, a terrible thing to be "lower class?"

"Upper class" is not just about the money. Although that is a large part of it. The truth is to really be at the tip-top of the class scale you have to be born into privilege. From the time of birth you have people wait on you and you get used to having the best of the best and being the best. It's true that people climb the social ladder but they can only go so far within a lifetime. It is much more likely that the children of the people that work hard to climb that ladder will be considered "upper class." Apparently, it's not something you can fake.

We all seem to want to be more "upper class" than we are, but is it really all it's cracked up to be? Considering family life it's not. It's true that parents in "upper class" situations are able to provide for their children and help them to have the best education possible but something that an "upper class" family usually lacks is time together. Wealthy families are very busy and tend to hire out things like nannies or cleaning people. The problem is that the nannies and the cleaning people are with the children more often than their own parents and usually bond with them more and feel more neglected by their parents. It's true that this doesn't ALWAYS happen, but the majority of the time it does.

Moral of lesson: Don't worry so much to be "upper class," it's not worth it.